"Don't fall in love with the flower and then try to change it's scent!"- Jay Shetty
Many times when we fall in love with someone, it almost feels like we are on the same frequency with the other person because our desire to be with them gives us the impetus to accept them for who they are since this is what draws us close to them in the first instance.
But after some time, some things starts to change, we start to feel nausea. The very thing that got us attracted to them now becomes an irritation.
We start to nag their behaviors and we no longer see the good side of them but starts noticing the gray areas. The implication is that we begin to suggest to them some new rules of behavior which are diametrically opposite to who they are.
If they accept, they lose themselves and by the time they are out of the relationship, they can't even recognize themselves again.
We should never do this to anyone!
As the Buddha responded when asked the difference between 'I like you' and 'I love you'. He beautifully answered 'When you like a flower, you just pluck it ; when you love a flower, you water it daily.'
And when you pluck a flower, it dies but when it is watered then it is preserved and it then grows.
If you understand this, then you understand life.
MrValue©
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